Sharing the 4 Big Questions About Sharing

You’ve probably heard it a million times. All the experts telling you to share your weight-loss goal. They’ve got pages of research that says sharing gives you a better chance of success. It keeps you accountable.

But those same experts never seem to address the real barriers men have with sharing. Who, How, When and Why is it so tough? So, as ever, The Man Shake is here to help. Here are the 4x big questions on sharing and how to solve them.

Put simply, it’s not your fault. As young men we were taught to compete. To never show vulnerability. To be self-reliant, That’s in sport, in school, in friendships, even in business. Sharing meant losing some of our power and, as a result, we keep everything to ourselves.

So, sharing is hard – particularly something as personal as your weight-loss goal. But, just like other Man Shakers before you, you can overcome your self-consciousness.

You already know your ideal weight is personal – based on your height and build. But when you share, your goal is also personal. You could:
 

Share from Day 1: This is when you're most excited and energised. Sharing immediately means you commit to making it happen.

Share a few weeks in: This is when you may hit your first flat spot. Sharing will give you extra support when you need it.

Share when people notice: The first time you’re complimented about losing weight is a huge ego boost. Sharing your ultimate goal in that moment maintains momentum.

Share when you’re struggling: We all have challenging days. If you find yourself needing support, sharing your weight-loss goal can help.  

    Ultimately, the best time to share your goal is when you're ready. But remember, it’s just the beginning of the conversation. You should continue to check in and keep yourself accountable.
 

Not everyone needs to know your goal. Some people’s reaction can be discouraging or dismissive – they can even encourage poor food choices. Choose someone who is supportive, trustworthy, or experienced. There are some obvious places to start:

Your partner: If you’re stocking up the cupboard with The Man Shake it’s going to be obvious. But don’t shy away from talking about it. 

A family-member: It could be a brother or sister, parent or child. We even know Manshakers who choose to share with cousins.

An understanding mate: This may be someone who’s addressed their own weight issues. Or may simply be your best mate. 

Other Man Shakers: Sometimes it’s simply easier to share with a stranger. The Man Shakers Facebook group has helped hundreds of men.

Make sure you pick a time and place where you are relaxed. Could be a quiet moment at the end of a day. Or over a beer at the pub. Or after a game. Many men find it easier to sit side-by-side rather than face-to-face. You can even talk over-the-phone if that’s easier.

The key to starting the conversation is to be honest. What led you to this moment? Why do you want to be healthy? And how can they help?

Remember, setting and sharing goals is a weight-loss superpower. It keeps you accountable, keeps you energised and keeps you on track.